Model positive behaviour yourself from birth, and your children will follow. Here’s some simple tips you can start straight away no matter your children’s age.
Use Polite Words:
Children can be taught to say ‘please’ and ‘thankyou’ from as young as 2, however Mum and Dad using these polite words regularly ensures they start learning them, and when to use them, from a much very young age.
Teaching your children to say ‘Excuse Me’ instead of ‘Muuuuuummmmm’ or ‘Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum, Mum’ if you are in the middle of a conversation makes everyone’s life a little easier. Rewarding your kids with your attention when they do say ‘excuse me’ is a really important part of encouraging them to continue using this polite way of interruption. :)
My daughter (Miss 8) now says ‘Mum, may I please ask you a question?’ and although this may seem really formal (believe me, we’re not) it teaches her that asking politely is more likely to be met with a polite answer. Instead of receiving a ‘NO’ as the immediate answer, I now phrase my answers much more politely and she has learnt that she is more likely to get what she wants when she asks with such great manners.
Correct your children politely, using your manners:
Look at it as an opportunity to teach your child, rather than discipline your child or make an example of them.
Respect & Sensitivity:
“Believe it or not, you begin to teach your child good manners at birth, but you don’t call them that. The root of good manners is respect for another person; and the root of respect is sensitivity. Sensitivity is one of the most valuable qualities you can instil into your child — and it begins in infancy. The sensitive infant will naturally become the respectful child who, because he cares for another’s feelings, will naturally become a well-mannered person. His politeness will be more creative and more heartfelt than anything he could have learned from a book of etiquette. In recent years it has become socially correct to teach children to be “assertive.” Being assertive is healthy as long as it doesn’t override politeness and good manners.” (www.askdrsears.com)
Parenting.com also talks about some other manners we are not teaching our children, but should be.
Here's there list. What do you think? Do you teach your children all of these?
- Stand to show respect.
- Be aware of others physical space in public.
- Show respect to your elders.
- Acknowledge other entering & exiting your home, including Mum and Dad.
- Learn and remember people’s names.
- Kids shouldn’t be the centre of attention all the time.
- Change the subject politely.
- Don’t point or stare at people.
- Be considerate and kind to people with disabilities.
- Be a good guest.
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